If you are anything like me you know that accepting adulthood is a little hard. I know that growing up, becoming the person you always wanted to be, reaching independence and conquering things on your own is great. But, to be honest, my favorite thing about adulthood is the fact that I get to do what I love. I got to build a career and make a difference in my industry. The rest of adulthood is all about responsibilities and dealing with things you never asked for. Especially when you move to a new country. You don’t have a choice, you have to become an adult with adult responsibilities. The complicated part here is when you have adult responsibilities, but you have no idea what to do for your career.
As I mentioned in so many different blog posts before, I moved to NYC with the intention of working in fashion. That was always my goal, my dream and what I have educated myself to do. But what exactly I wanted to do in the fashion industry is what caught me unprepared and with no idea about how I was going to even start my career in the big apple.
It is really hard when you move to a new country. But when we are talking about New York City things tend to go to a whole other level. Why? Oh, damn! It is easy to get a job and make money, so you can get distracted with side jobs and forget that you have a career to build, there is SO much to do and places to see in NYC, a lot of nightlife and parties (in case you are like me and like to dance your booty off), and, mainly, competition. This is the only one place in the world where it is so crowded, but so crowded, that native New Yorkers avoid getting out of the house during the holidays or, simply, don’t go to Times square. Honestly, this city is full of people who like to hustle and they are willing to take the job and start their careers no matter how, so if you are not fast and smart, your place is taken and this city will eat you alive.
After hitting my face on the floor a few times, I finally learned how this city works and I ended up learning how to hustle. But, for a person who had now idea how to even get a job, it was a pretty (awful) nightmare. New York is all about adulting and hustling. Things I never really asked for and yet, here we are! Lol, but for real…
You don’t have a choice, you will become an adult. And that can be good too. That means new adventures, new challenges and constant work on making yourself better. I will admit that I like it. Taking big steps scare the shit out of me… for real! My marriage (which is a pretty big adult thing to do) did not scare me as much as moving to our new place as a couple is scaring me right now. This might seem silly, but it is true. Here is another thing New York City just taught me: focusing on growing your career and becoming a badass professional is the only point of being an adult (lols, but for real). Building up your credit, moving to your own space and embracing that I am almost 30 years old is also normal.
Little food for thought if you are a young kid trying to move to the big apple to build a career.
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