You know that life likes to slap you in the face and put you through some not-so-fun stuff every once in a while (or all the time), right? Well, it feels like living these moments as an immigrant restricts the ways how we can deal with them. Especially when you do not want to worry your family about the troubles you are going through. It is hard to take a step toward your career when you are alone, full of doubts and uncertainties, but remember, stepping outside your comfort zone is what makes you grow.
Lately, I honestly have been dealing with this myself. If you have read my first blog posts about how I built my career in NYC, you would notice that I work my ass up, but when it comes to moving forward and stepping outside my comfort zone I am lazy and scared. No wonder it took me forever to get my shit together and step up on my career… Now that I am living outside my zone and working on a long-term career, the hard moments are hitting and, we all know, how hard it is to stay focused.
Not only to stay focused but to get work done. I am the kind of person who loves to get shit done, but when it comes to doing things for myself, I need to be careful to not do that “self-sabotage” thing and leave it all for later. And, usually, when this is happening, it is when the low moments really hit me.
As I mentioned, going through shit as an immigrant seems to be way harder since you are doing everything on your own and you want to avoid talking to your parents or family because you do not want to worry them. These are the moments that will show you how strong you are and how tough NYC makes you feel. Now, looking back to my post IMMIGRANTS SERIES - Moving to NYC Part 3 Social Live where I mention your circle of friends, this is the moment that you will count on your friends more than you imagine and you will realize that your circle of friends is more important than you think.
Surrounding yourself with people who inspire you and motivate you to stop crying, get your ass off your couch and get work done is the main thing for you to stop being lazy and stop self-sabotage as I did. It is hard, but it has to be done and, the more you live within the circle of people who inspire, the better you will be. As I said, lately I have been going through this myself because I hurt my knee and it has been hard to step out of the house or get work done, so I am feeling like I am stagnated (which I hate). After hanging out with some friends I have not seen in a while, going out for brunch, and doing things I like (and also making me think I have to do better in my career to afford my lifestyle), I am 100% back to work - even though I still need knee surgery, lol but for real!
It has been a while that I have not gone through some of these dark moments. My career change and my knee injury are what opened the door for this to be happening and, living in NYC, you will learn that these are the most messed up things that can happen to you: changing your career and being injured. But pushing yourself out of your comfort zone, actually getting work done, and surrounding yourself with the right people will get you back on track.
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